These are questions you should avoid as much as possible when meeting up with a man for the very first time.
You can only have one of these two types of first-dates: the type that flows magically, conversation is easy and time just passes so effortlessly that you lose track of time and it feels like you have known the person forever.
And there’s another type that doesn’t go as great, one which ruins the possibility of subsequent date.
You could either get into this situation when both people have nothing to say for long spells and things become really awkward, or you could just be saying things that you shouldn’t.
To avoid the awkwardness that comes with this kind of situations, these are questions to avoid asking:
Are you dating anyone else?
You don’t want to do this especially if it’s a date coming just after a short while of knowing the guy. Even if it’s unintentional, this question insinuates that you already want to be exclusive, and you definitely don’t want to seem clingy right off the bat.
You don’t need that energy.
Are you having fun?
If you think your date is bored or not interested, you should find a way to make the evening more appealing and fun, and asking them if they are having fun is not the way to do that. You also don’t want to come across as being too eager to please.
It should be clear, based on your date’s body language and the conversation, whether things are going well. If it seems like he or she isn’t having a great time, try not to take it too personally, it’s just the first date anyways.
How much money do you make?
You don’t want to come off as someone who is after his money or someone who uses a man’s wage-structure to decide whether or not to be with him. Of course, if there are more dates you will know over time. But the first date is not the best time to ask this kind of question.