Some women are content to be takers, either giving nothing back or offering too little in return, compared to what they get from their romantic unions.
It’s about time you got better from your relationship, too. So you should let any woman go who refuses to do for you, any of the five things listed below.
1. Doesn’t spoil you
Really, men deserve to be spoilt, too. And while this does not take away from the duty you owe your woman to spoil and make her feel like a queen at all times, it still needs to be said that you, too, need pampering, surprise dates, visits to exotic places, and other affordable comforts that tallies with your present position in life.
2. Doesn’t support you
She should be your number one support and cheer leader. Women are actually quite good at this. If yours isn’t and doesn’t look interested in changing anytime soon, let that woman go, abeg!
You really need and deserve someone who stands by you through the journey to greatness, just as you should be on her journey to hers.
Since we are here, it is important for you to realise that your woman’s life and yours can run concurrently. Never allow her abandon her dreams for yours, neither should you be the one to douse the fire in her eyes. That’s waaaaay worse.
3. Doesn’t give you peace of mind
Women need peace of mind from you in the sense that you give them the opportunity to trust your loyalty to them, and your unwavering faithfulness to them.
But guess what? They owe you this duty too! You don’t need a woman who constantly has something to complain about, who lacks the emotional intelligence required to keep you happy, unstressed, mentally stable and content with life.
4. How about some respect?
Respect is reciprocal. She gives your yours and she deserves hers, too.
5. Doesn’t care about your sexual satisfaction
There are women who overrate the importance of having a vajayjay. They think all they need do during sex is to just lay there and let you have your way. They believe that ‘giving’ it to you is enough work already.
But of course, that’s not enough and you deserve better than a woman who offers nothing but wack sex, and refuses to chance or put in any effort to grow out of it.
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Let that man go.
Sadly, the need for the latter is often mistaken as the more important one instead of the former. But of course, that is not how it should be. It is great to have a boyfriend but it is more important to have one who is not just in your life for the fun of it.
So if you have one who doesn’t do any of the following five things, he’s no better than just an unnecessary piece of furniture on an already crowded surface. You really need to let him go.
1. Support you
If your boyfriend is not a believer in your abilities or in the things you do and spend most of your time and energy on, it’s grounds enough for him to be dumped. You need someone in your life who pushes you with his actions and encourages you with his words.
2. Respect you
Respect is far too important to take with a pinch of salt. So if yours is a man who needs to be taught the basic things about respect and he’s not even catching up, you are really free to let him go.
Every man who considers himself old enough to be in a relationship shouldn’t have to be taught how to respect and treat a woman right. If he fails on this front, every self-respecting woman knows better than to constantly battle for respect and fair treatment, especially from the man she calls her own!
3. Respect your family
His respect should not be limited to just you particularly when your relationship is marriage intended. He does not need to love your parents and family members. That is a demand too much to make if him. But of a necessity, he must respect them – every single of them.
This is an unbendable rule. Don’t sell your folks and siblings cheap. Demand this at all times and let him go if he feels too big to comply.
4. Doesn’t let you express yourself
Refusal to communicate with you or allow you express your thoughts, emotions and feelings in a relationship is a grave offence that you really should not take lightly, ever!
The operative word here is stonewalling, and where this is the order of the day, it is difficult to imagine such relationship growing or blossoming into anything magical or enviable.
If he’s closed off and habitually shuts down communication, it really is pointless trying to make things work with this guy. Let him go.
5. Doesn’t put in enough effort
If you have repeatedly tried to make him put in more effort into pleasing you sexually, treating you right and other reasonable demands you may have, you need to let him go if he refuses to do just that.