The changes we wish to make in ourselves do not happen overnight and we need to work on them with the right tools for our self improvement.
Do you claim health is important to you; Then skip the gym/workout routine for 6 weeks?
Do you believe being productive is important; but work only on the night before a deadline?
Do you believe relationships are important; but let your social life stagnate?
How do you close that gap between what you value and how you behave?
Blogging has helped me close that gap by forcing me to walk my talk. I’m far from perfect. Like everyone, I make mistakes and often fail to live up to the things I consider important. But writing has made it easier to stay consistent with those values instead of falling into excuses.
Progress, Not Perfection
Imperfections are part of life. I think it’s sad that some people feel that because being perfectly consistent with your values is impossible, that there is no point trying to debug the inconsistencies. Some self-improvement cynicism is the result of demanding the impossible, expecting perfection instead of progress.
My goal has been to notice gaps between my philosophy of life and my behaviors. I’m certainly nowhere near perfection, but even in just a few years of deliberately pursuing this strategy, I’ve made improvements.
Here are a few of the inconsistencies you can debug in no time:
1. From Slob to Productive.
Productivity and organization are important , but one can be messy, undisciplined procrastinator. Focusing on building the right habits and training yourself will almost completely closed this gap.
2. Unhealthy to Fit.
Your health and energy levels should be important to you, you should exercise more and have great eating habits.
3. Non-reader to Literary Glutton.
Try to read more books and articles on education, business, innovation, leadership etc
4. Night Owl to Early Riser.
Ones you’ve read about the potential benefits of waking up early for productivity, you can make the switch from waking up at 7:30-8:00 back to 5:30.
5. Unconscious Spender to Budget Maker.
Make sure your finances are being guided properly, and put in place a more thorough system for recording and budgeting of expenses.
6. Shy to Extroverted.
Have a social life, meet new people, make friends and be outgoing, enjoy being spontaneous in meeting new people.
I point out these changes because none were instantaneous. Even after you have decided your beliefs on an issue, it takes work to change your behaviors. Especially the moment you declare productivity is important to you. It will take a little while of effort to reach your desired point.
From an outside perspective, however, nobody would see that effort. They won’t see the failed attempts you had in implementing certain things, the days you slept right through your alarm or the four failed thirty day trials you went through before exercising stuck.
Keep Striving, One Day At A Time…..